Some people place too much emphasis on wedding gifts and forget what the ceremony is really about

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A woman gave her friend’s son a wedding gift even though she was not invited

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A few weeks after the ceremony, the groom wanted to return the gift and expected to get the amount back

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The pursuit of material things can have a detrimental effect on social relationships

Psychologist and author Tim Kasser defined materialism to place a “relatively high priority” on money and possessions. The groom may have displayed these characteristics according to the author’s story.

According to experts, a materialistic mindset can only distort a person’s view of the world, despite some perceived benefits.

As University of Colorado professor Sheet Van Boven According to him, people often believe that the pursuit of material goods can improve social relationships. However, he says the exact opposite is true.

“This is really problematic because we know that high-quality social relationships are one of the best indicators of happiness, health and well-being,” he said.

The groom seemed to value the gift too highly. He showed little appreciation towards the author, who made the effort despite not being invited.

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It can be helpful to approach ingratitude with a detached attitude

The author expressed her dislike of what happened, but experts advise a more stoic approach in such moments.

Educator and author Chuck Chakrapani reminds us that we have no control over the actions of other people. In an article for Medium, He stressed the importance of letting go of our expectations of others, and in this case it was the groom’s job to show gratitude, which he unfortunately did not do.

With a altruistic view of life can also help. As Dr. Chakarapani pointed out, doing favors for others also benefits us in some ways. It makes us feel good and improves our overall mood.

From this perspective, the author may be able to move on from what happened and not let it affect her friendship with the groom’s mother. However, it is also understandable that she would set boundaries and not have any further concerns about the gift.

What do you think, dear readers? How should the woman deal with the situation?

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The author responded to some of the comments and clarified some questions

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